ToxicFemininty, #3

Highly common in the WorkPlace, or any other RatRace where women who work 40+ hours a week can be found congregating.

Common behaviors include:

1. Expecting special treatment/protected status and competitive advantages (hint: you cannot have both)
2. Silently shaming or undermining men at work by ShitTesting, acting bitchy without explanation, or giving the cold shoulder for no reason. When prompted, the explanation will terminate at "vibes".
3. Expecting men to do all the work while you sit around and chat/gossip.
4. Constantly drawing attention to how FUCKING HARD THIS JOB IS FOR ME and how I DEAL WITH CHRONIC PAIN, panic attacks, etc. Frequently calling attention to your weakness so that others take sympathy on you, while doing nothing to overcome the weakness. This usually leads to CoDependency.
5. Being so neurotic about an issue that instead of it being verbalized, it will only be drawn out for months, if not years of internalized torture: if you want independence, assert yourself! Have social skills and communicate when you have a problem. Maybe talking through your feelings will help you realize how transient this all is.
6. Demoralizing men who act like men, and refusing to talk to them if they don't apologize, bow before you unequivocally, or give a neatly wrapped explanation of everything they do to you. PROTIP: much of what is considered toxic in men can have the exact same effect in women, it is just more difficult to spot since most women approach relationships differently. Women silently undermine from within. Remember, you must avoid opening up or trusting people who could easily have you fired, subject to a RumorMill, ReputationRuined, CareerRuined, and LifeRuined.

FeminizedMales

In general, FeminizedMales use similar shaming tactics, just to a lesser degree. If you tell such a male that you are pursuing hobbies at home, or show passion, the response is usually to tune out, or offer a dismissive comment. At work, all stripes of people can be found who ridicule whoever has genuine interest or creative interest in something. When you observe the behavior of such NPCs, they are found to recycle the same scripts over and over and over and over again. They speak on the surface level of life, and despise creativity. They only exist to ClockIn, ClockOut, and BitchToOtherCoWorkers. Anything different is seen as a threat, and having fun and loving your fellow human is seen as violence.

Lyrics

She'll do anything

to make you feel like an asshole

-Beck

Don't let her get near you

Don't let her get too close

(And the stance I took on that)

Don't let her turn you into

(Leaves a forcefield around my neck)

The things you hate the most

-Beck